On Finding Real Connections

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I’ve been thinking lately about how I like to spend time with people. Sometimes we socialize just for the sake of it. Other times, it is because we truly enjoy the company. I find the former tiring, but the latter deeply fulfilling. There is something special about being with people who make you think, who listen with intent, and who help you see the world a little differently. Whether at work or in personal circles, there is always a balance between what you enjoy and what you feel obligated to do. When you reflect on it long enough, deeper questions begin to surface. Do I socialize to grow my network? What does that even mean? Am I looking for a favor somewhere down the line? Or am I just afraid of missing out if I am not part of the local chatter? These days, most of my new interactions happen through my children. Their friends’ parents are the people I end up spending the most time with. Some of them I genuinely enjoy talking to because we connect on familiar ground. With other...

When the Violin Wept for Me

There are songs that entertain.
There are songs that move you.
And then, once in a lifetime, there’s a piece of music that finds you — and never lets go.

There was a moment of madness.
I went to YouTube just to feel “Sundari Kannal.”
But you have no chance of finding just the song.
You end up losing yourself in the pangs of nostalgia.

How can Ilaiyaraaja create emotions out of silence?
How does a single violin — just one humble instrument — manage to stir your soul so completely?

That breakup scene between Rajini and Shobana… it has more silence than music.
But it’s that silence that makes you weep.
You lose yourself.
You find yourself.
You are caught in a web — memories, emotions, fragments of feelings you didn’t know still lived in you.

They come.
They go.
And then — the violin.

The interlude arrives like a quiet storm.
The orchestra is so simple… yet so rich.
It’s not loud. It’s not flashy.
It’s healing.
But within the healing, there is hurt. It seeps into you.

You're trying to process the separation.
But there are no words spoken.
There’s only music.
And then, a silence that somehow says everything.

Ilaiyaraaja has this uncanny ability to let you feel emotions you never thought you were capable of feeling.
Years later, the music still lingers — not just in the ears, but in the spaces between your thoughts.

The emotions return as if no time has passed.
But they also evolve. There are new layers now.
You are taken back in time, and yet, time stands still.

You look ahead, but part of you wants to stay… transfixed in the past.
A single tear escapes.
You don’t want to wipe it away.
It stands as a testimony — to decades of silent emotion packed into a single violin phrase.

And then, again — the silence.

But it isn’t dead.
It’s not emptiness.
It’s a silence that speaks. A silence with its own language.

No trace of drama.
Yet every emotion is there.
Everything is blank. And yet, you are flooded.

As you loop in and out of that one-minute interlude, the world fades.
Nothing moves. Nothing needs to.

There is still so much magic in this world.

Music is therapy.
Ilaiyaraaja is the therapist.
And that single interlude of violin… it heals you in ways even you don’t understand.

It doesn’t explain. It doesn’t ask.
It just stays — with you, within you, forever.

Some music fades.
Ilaiyaraaja’s music echoes — in the soul's silences.

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